Ajahn Brahmali Dhamma Talk – 11 February 2017
We were blessed to have the Venerable Ajahn Brahmali visit our school 11th February 2017 and host a Dhamma session! His talk was perpetuating teachings of Buddha to help us around EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE (the ability to adapt to adversity without lasting difficulties) e.g how to control the effects of irritation, anger, arrogance etc. around causes (people).
Here is my summary of his talk:
Confide in a place/person of wisdom who can harbour truth. One should find a pillar(s) to help ground you and your problematic questions. This is someone/place of guidance that will direct you towards the light. For example, Dhamma or a wise Elder.
It’s best to talk to someone about emotional situations that can give you insight other than your own perspective. Suppression and self-evaluation can hinder you from being truly “liberated”. But the teachings from another person who does not practice Dhamma principles themselves is practically fruitless.
The Dhamma teaches us that we need to understand that life is constantly changing. Our expectations
should be that nothing stays permanent. Once we come to this acceptance of transience, it will allow us laymen to grow and let go of many things without being held down by chains of ignorance/stubbornness.
Though, it should mention that does not mean life is fatalistic and that we shouldn’t have the attitude of accepting things for how it is. Because within ourselves, we have every control to steer the directions of our lives.
3) METTA (LOVE AND KINDNESS)
The last Ajahn Brahmali speaks of is that if there is something we acknowledge from someone else that we resent.. we are only focusing on negative aspects. The Dhamma teaches that we should see the positive aspects of that person and allow ourselves to approach these situations with love and kindness. This includes, looking at a broader perspective of WHY the person may be acting this way and HOW we can help them with compassion. Fueling yourself with negative energy is NEVER the right approach. Letting go of these chains of negativity is the RIGHT approach.
Analogy inspired by Panha Pal
You are at a BBQ and someone has the audacity to humiliate you in front of everyone. You suddenly have the urge of revenge and you.just.want.to.throw.coal.at.that.person …. but the truth is that the person would suffer the most damage is yourself. You will suffer the prolonged repercussions of the burn, possibly having to go to the hospital and undergo surgery (and noticing that there is really a slim chance of the person being really burned by the coal) And sooner or later, the feeling of revenge is overridden by the pain you feel from the burn and remorse.
The lesson is that life is indeed transient… and not approaching people with METTA no matter who they are will result with you hurting yourself more than anyone else.
And to come about realising all of this… That is because I finally have found my place of refuge. Which is Pal Buddhist School.